Trollslayer
Outstanding Member
I have just seen this thread and am so glad things are betting better.
Been a few months since I posted on here. Mid October I suffered what I think was a nervous/mental breakdown of sorts and was signed off work with Anxiety and Stress. Fast forward to now and I've had several counselling sessions, meds and I'm looking to a phased return back to work in the next couple of weeks. Since then Katy is just as she was. No real development change apart from she's now decided to start spitting out her drinks everywhere :/
Our youngest Grace was diagnosed last week. She needs more help then Katy did at her age. She really is sensory overload and will just sit there flicking, spinning and scratching everything. She's also a terrible sleeper and is currently very disgruntled and has a hell of a temper on her.
Truth be told the past couple of months have been extremely hard work and challenging. Having 2 being on the more severe side of Autism is bloody testing and takes a lot of energy and patience. I have the deepest respect for anyone that has to deal with disabilities no matter what the level.
Biggest problem we currently have is housing. We live in a small 3 bed new build and we desperately need a 4th bedroom. Our Maddie has to share with Grace and frequently gets no sleep as Grace will be awake for hours at a time so it ends up being musical beds.
Issues we have is we can't stretch to a 4 bed house on our budget. We are currently in the process of information gathering as to what help and support we may be able to get in regards to housing. My wife is going to speak to our LA this week and also get a letter from the kiddiespinks doc to advise that we need a 4 bedroom house.
If anyone can help or have any information on housing or has been through something similar I'd really appreciate advice. We have no idea what help we could get.
Do you get cash from gov? That might help. We get 400 a month for my lad and he seems less severe
All the best mate. Me and my wife ate separated now so I know what you mean about stress
Been a few months since I posted on here. Mid October I suffered what I think was a nervous/mental breakdown of sorts and was signed off work with Anxiety and Stress. Fast forward to now and I've had several counselling sessions, meds and I'm looking to a phased return back to work in the next couple of weeks. Since then Katy is just as she was. No real development change apart from she's now decided to start spitting out her drinks everywhere :/
Our youngest Grace was diagnosed last week. She needs more help then Katy did at her age. She really is sensory overload and will just sit there flicking, spinning and scratching everything. She's also a terrible sleeper and is currently very disgruntled and has a hell of a temper on her.
Truth be told the past couple of months have been extremely hard work and challenging. Having 2 being on the more severe side of Autism is bloody testing and takes a lot of energy and patience. I have the deepest respect for anyone that has to deal with disabilities no matter what the level.
Biggest problem we currently have is housing. We live in a small 3 bed new build and we desperately need a 4th bedroom. Our Maddie has to share with Grace and frequently gets no sleep as Grace will be awake for hours at a time so it ends up being musical beds.
Issues we have is we can't stretch to a 4 bed house on our budget. We are currently in the process of information gathering as to what help and support we may be able to get in regards to housing. My wife is going to speak to our LA this week and also get a letter from the kiddiespinks doc to advise that we need a 4 bedroom house.
If anyone can help or have any information on housing or has been through something similar I'd really appreciate advice. We have no idea what help we could get.
Hi Paul, not checked this thread in a while but your post caught my eye as I'm the same age as you, have come to accept I'm probably undiagnosed aspergers. I've learnt a great deal going through the process for my 13 Yr old son, who is the mirror image of me at that age which I think equips me quite well for dealing with him (he was diagnosed last year after a 5-6 year battle to get him the help he needs)I actually just had a look at this thread tonight. I think curious on the thought of this condition. I say condition as I don't think its an illness to be cured. I myself am meant to be going to the drs next week to start getting tested for Aspergers at 38 years- I worry about it and what it will mean for me going forward. Still its caused difficulties for me for years. It good to see support and acceptance for this kind of thing.
Hi Paul, not checked this thread in a while but your post caught my eye as I'm the same age as you, have come to accept I'm probably undiagnosed aspergers. I've learnt a great deal going through the process for my 13 Yr old son, who is the mirror image of me at that age which I think equips me quite well for dealing with him (he was diagnosed last year after a 5-6 year battle to get him the help he needs)
Out of interest, what spurred you to get assessed? What's the process, do you just go see your doctor?
Do you want to know for any particular reason?
No problem if you don't want discuss or would rather do it via pm. It seems a mirror of my own situation, so just curious really.
Thanks for replying, very interesting to read.
I'm self employed so the work thing has never been an issue thankfully. I hate situations of meetings new groups of people, perhaps that contributed to me working for myself so young.
I've often asked myself do I have issues or am I just being a d*ck. I suspect I have many of the issues you mentioned, but not enough to really impact me severely.
Generally I'm quite aware of it all and know when I'm having a black day, yet I know people diagnosed with depression and wouldn't want to compare my down days to what they appear to suffer. That's what made me respond, I'd like to understand it all a bit better and perhaps be better equipped to deal with it.
Best of luck with it all, and I'm very interested to hear how you get on. I think there is more understanding of it all these days although I realise how hard it is for blokes to address it.
I think just accepting it and taking steps to improve is massively important. There must be plenty of people from our generation and older who were never diagnosed, much like dislexic kids were previously assumed to just be naughty.
So our non verbal Katy boo decides to recite some of the alphabet before. Quite an emotional moment is an understatement.