People, what's wrong with their wiring?

I have seen this before.
If you are a guy that looks great, works out, has enough money to be generous, and is a really fun and sociable guy, you can and will get away with a hell of a lot.
What's the saying about girls/woman and bad guys....

And this is the annoying part, despite such a persons 'flaws' being overlooked as in every other dept he's a great guy.

If you 'a normal guy' go out of your way to bring his flaws to the surface and explain to others he's not such a great guy. YOU will be the one to attract the negativity.

I've experienced this personally myself, a old girlfriends brother. REALLY into the wrong groups, Booze, Drugs, Can get you a gun if you want one. And I'm not joking there.
Am amazing chap everyone loved. His dark side was just part of his whole package.
And indeed you meet him at a party, he's buy your drinks, laughing and joking, everyone loved him, extremely sociable.
But you focus on his bad side and you were the one who would be looked upon like some lepur.

I suppose it's because most people look at the whole person and if they see 90% amazing, the 10% that's not get's put to one side.
 
I have seen this before.
If you are a guy that looks great, works out, has enough money to be generous, and is a really fun and sociable guy, you can and will get away with a hell of a lot.
What's the saying about girls/woman and bad guys....

And this is the annoying part, despite such a persons 'flaws' being overlooked as in every other dept he's a great guy.

If you 'a normal guy' go out of your way to bring his flaws to the surface and explain to others he's not such a great guy. YOU will be the one to attract the negativity.

I've experienced this personally myself, a old girlfriends brother. REALLY into the wrong groups, Booze, Drugs, Can get you a gun if you want one. And I'm not joking there.
Am amazing chap everyone loved. His dark side was just part of his whole package.
And indeed you meet him at a party, he's buy your drinks, laughing and joking, everyone loved him, extremely sociable.
But you focus on his bad side and you were the one who would be looked upon like some lepur.

I suppose it's because most people look at the whole person and if they see 90% amazing, the 10% that's not get's put to one side.

Unfortunately, I know just what you mean. And of course, both genders are attracted to the type you describe. I think in the instance you described in the case of the neighbour that mistreats women, if you have information, you should report it.
 
The issue with this guy is, his behaviour is now spilling out into his neighbourhood. Just call the police and report.

I think this girls love a bad boy is a bit of a myth.
 
The issue with this guy is, his behaviour is now spilling out into his neighbourhood. Just call the police and report.

I think this girls love a bad boy is a bit of a myth.

I know that a very good friend of my wife bounced from one bad relationship to another. She just seemed to attract arseholes. We could never work out why. In her work life, she was an extremely strong woman, a leader of people, but when it came to men, she just had poor judgement.
 
I thought this was well know.
A lot of women (some / more than they'd like to admit) are attracted to strong good looking alpha type males, who will by their nature, tend to be one of the 'lads'
Tough to others, but nice to them, some negatives, but their others aspects gloss over this.

It's not exactly shocking, as I'm sure we can understand why.
The quiet timid, loving, but nothing special guy will get totally overlooked often in such a scenario.

I'm sure this is just built in, and perhaps even denied, but its still there as that's nature and we are, after all just animals with big brains.

Even seen video of a guy smacking his GF around, someone goes to help, and takes the BF out and the GF starts attacking this person who has come to her rescue. ;)

Takes all type to make a world, but as with attractive woman, eps with money if you have both those things going for you, often you are pretty much made.

That said, no way would I want a really attractive lady to be with as I'd be scared every other guy would be on the prowl for her.
Better a really ugly one, with money, and a stock of paper bags when needed ;)

(I am joking!) ;)
 
I think this girls love a bad boy is a bit of a myth.
Not always.

I know a couple of women in particular, they've spent years "friend zoning" every nice guy who shows an interest, hooking up with assholes who treat them terribly, then they have the cheek to moan that there are no good men around.
 
I think you underestimate just how clever and manipulative people like that can be though. They're usually very confident and have a way with words that can make the other person in the relationship see things in a different way. Its not just men either, women can be like that too.

There absolutely are plenty of women who like bad boys, but equally there are plenty of women who don't realise they with a bad boy until they've already been sucked in. With guys like that it can then be extremely difficult to get out.
 
Even seen video of a guy smacking his GF around, someone goes to help, and takes the BF out and the GF starts attacking this person who has come to her rescue. ;)

I had this happen to me as a 16 year old apprentice in Harrogate. I was out with mates (not drinking obvs, I wasn't legal ;) ) and I saw this guy slap a woman in the street. I ran straight over and pushed them apart. I didn't get much further than giving the bloke a frown, when the woman jumped on my back, screaming at me like a banshee!

A couple of bouncers stood outside a club waded in and helped.
 
But what can women do?

Say you can't handle your drink and get pretty rough handed when you are in that state.
And let say your GF finally leaves you due to this.

Ok, so now where are we?

It's not like there is a easy to find database about "why their partners left them" which a lady, or man, can look up to check what happened.

Someone who knows (like us neighbors) we are not going to rush round to his house every time a new lady appears to be getting involved, take her to one side and say, "Hey, he's why his last partner left"

A: She's probably not going to believe us, and even if she kinda did, she'd as him, and he's make up some other story.
B: It's not something people do in the 1st place, going out "telling" and sticking their noses into others private affairs.

It's down to the new GF/BF/Partner to find this out, as, after all, things may be different with this new person. They may not take the crap the other one did and it will turn out fine.

One lady may cry, get slapped, fall to the floor, and be taken advantage off.
Another may give a hard kick to the nuts, and a smack on the head with a frying pan.

 
bad_ex.png
 
1: It would be nice if there was some database of what a person was like. Which can never happen.

2: It takes two, to make a relationship, and just because relationship 1 went bad, it does not guarantee relationship 2 will go bad also.

Of course, some issues are harder to work through than others (Alcohol / Violence / Drugs / Money) being probably the four BIG ones I can think of, it will take the right 'Other Half' to be able to handle this.

Eg. you may have a guy that gets violent with a small lady who is not that way, and obviously she can't cope and she has to get out of the abusive relationship.

Or this same guy may end up with someone like this, who will kick his ass across the floor in an instant if he tries any of that:

e63b0fb55eec2067b402ffbc4884385c.jpg
 
Agreed. I’m quite hunky lol and I treat my wife like a princess :love:

Does she like you kissing her, when she is sleeping and un-aware of what you are doing?
(or perhaps the only time you can get that close due to her being unconscious) ;)


dcb3bce48ed4dfa319dee9f5d0a3d512.png
 
Does she like you kissing her, when she is sleeping and un-aware of what you are doing?
(or perhaps the only time you can get that close due to her being unconscious) ;)


dcb3bce48ed4dfa319dee9f5d0a3d512.png

i like to dress my lady up in jewlery when she's asleep..
 
Does she like you kissing her, when she is sleeping and un-aware of what you are doing?
(or perhaps the only time you can get that close due to her being unconscious) ;)


dcb3bce48ed4dfa319dee9f5d0a3d512.png

She has said before ‘I’m tired, help yourself to nookie, but you’d better not wake me!’.
I’m unsure what this means insofar as my sexual prowess...:eek::laugh:
 
So @Tempest have you reported it or not, you have made several posts since but none confirm yes or no.
 
But what can women do?

Say you can't handle your drink and get pretty rough handed when you are in that state.
And let say your GF finally leaves you due to this.

Ok, so now where are we?

It's not like there is a easy to find database about "why their partners left them" which a lady, or man, can look up to check what happened.

Someone who knows (like us neighbors) we are not going to rush round to his house every time a new lady appears to be getting involved, take her to one side and say, "Hey, he's why his last partner left"

A: She's probably not going to believe us, and even if she kinda did, she'd as him, and he's make up some other story.
B: It's not something people do in the 1st place, going out "telling" and sticking their noses into others private affairs.

It's down to the new GF/BF/Partner to find this out, as, after all, things may be different with this new person. They may not take the crap the other one did and it will turn out fine.

One lady may cry, get slapped, fall to the floor, and be taken advantage off.
Another may give a hard kick to the nuts, and a smack on the head with a frying pan.


There is something called "Clares Law" which you can use in confidence if you are worried about a partner.

I've never used it but here's the link.

 
So @Tempest have you reported it or not, you have made several posts since but none confirm yes or no.

Nope, despite knowing I'm going to be moaned at here, I'm not personally going to take this any further.
The others who live around me are letting this slide as just him being stupid/drunk, but better not happen again type of feeling.
My direct neighbor who I speak to every day (who'd bushes he wee'd on) pretty much laughed it off and has forgotten about it already.
The people directly affected (mum and middle aged daughter) do not want this taken any further.
And I'm sure his current GF (whom I have not seen to speak to since this happened) is not impressed either. (all very quiet)
So, I'm not going to get involved further as really it's none of my business directly and I respect the wishes of those directly affected.
If "YOU" or someone here has something happen, and upon speaking with you, you told me you did not wish the matter to be taken further I'd respect your wishes.

If what had happened had affected me directly, then of course it would be my choice, but other than seeing/hearing it, I've nothing to do with this.

If all those involved wish to handle it between them and do what they feel they need to do to repair their neighborly relationships I'm not going to wade in.

I shall no doubt speak to both him and his GF at some point, and will say the appropriate thing then.

But, no I'm not ignoring everyone's wishes, making myself the bad guy and going to the police to report something that did not affect me, and the people involved don't want that either.
Sorry if that choice upsets anyone.
That would make ME the bad guy then, and we all want to get along in a small close.
 
I thought this was well know.
A lot of women (some / more than they'd like to admit) are attracted to strong good looking alpha type males, who will by their nature, tend to be one of the 'lads'
Tough to others, but nice to them, some negatives, but their others aspects gloss over this.

It's not exactly shocking, as I'm sure we can understand why.
The quiet timid, loving, but nothing special guy will get totally overlooked often in such a scenario.

I'm sure this is just built in, and perhaps even denied, but its still there as that's nature and we are, after all just animals with big brains.

Even seen video of a guy smacking his GF around, someone goes to help, and takes the BF out and the GF starts attacking this person who has come to her rescue. ;)

Takes all type to make a world, but as with attractive woman, eps with money if you have both those things going for you, often you are pretty much made.

That said, no way would I want a really attractive lady to be with as I'd be scared every other guy would be on the prowl for her.
Better a really ugly one, with money, and a stock of paper bags when needed ;)

(I am joking!) ;)
Just because a woman is attractive doesn't mean you wont have various issues to work through such as:
Work commitments
Education commitments
Money worries
Materialism
Friendship conflicts
Building projects
Childhood effects
Fundamental value differences
Difference in morals and boundaries
Excessive use of drugs, drink or smoking
Sex life, fluctuating, to much too little, porn use, useless in bed.
Children wanting not wanting
Pregnancy being a burden
Family re children taking time away form partnership
No emotional intimacy
Health problems
Inter family conflicts
Unmet expectations
Divorces
Covid 19
Etc, etc.
There's loads of potential pitfalls, having a modelesque girlfriend doesn't avoid any of that journey. Trust me I'm living proof. :rotfl:
Depends on what you want.

My dating profile just said.
Who likes midget gems?
And which is your favourite?
Then chat, don't be creepy, ask them out in under ten messages.

No boll-ox about being a pilot, Dr, ex sas, sports agent, business man, hard man, jack the lad, mountain climbing, last chance saloon, cry me a river, please date me. I used to laugh at some of the profiles on dating apps with my girlfriends, some really snoring chat, outrageous promises and Walter mittys.
And guess what, your going to get knock back after knock back. That's just how it is. Current girlfriend disappeared for two weeks, I sent her a daft message then asked a her out.
We met the next day last September and have not spent many days apart since.
However just because she looks good in a pair of size 8/10 jeans and has a pretty face doesn't mean we don't bicker or have conflicts of interest.

Going to the gym helps, but so does brushing your teeth, smart clothes and a smile. And don't talk about your mum.:rotfl: Or the PlayStation. Don't aspire to be a nice guy, aspire to be a good man.
 

The latest video from AVForums

TV Buying Guide - Which TV Is Best For You?
Subscribe to our YouTube channel
Back
Top Bottom